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I’ve been referencing Jennifer Smith’s books in almost every post of mine so I figured I’d do a book review solely on what I thought of her book. I’ve read a few of her books/devotionals but I will start with The Unveiled Wife: Embracing Intimacy with God and Your Husband.
Jennifer’s extreme honesty in this book is what makes it so wonderful – and so easy to relate to. She opens up with a scene in church where her and her husband are just drained emotionally and she is wondering if this was it? If what she was feeling was all marriage is supposed to be?
Then she begins her love story…
She talks about how her and her husband met, how they met at a church group gathering and how they eventually began dating. She talked about how attractive his love for God was, that he helped anyone. She had a huge crush on him and for a long time, she had no idea how he felt about her.
Until one day, when he asked her if she’d like to date him.
From there on a beautiful love blossomed and they committed to staying sexually pure for each other, saving each other for their wedding night. They struggled but were able to keep that promise to each other and to God.
On the night of their wedding day, they were not able to consummate their marriage. She had extreme pain and was just not able to get past the pain. Her husband was understanding, gentle, and patient. She just figured if they’d practice, they’d make it perfect.
Weeks went by, then unfortunately years, before they were able to fully consummate their marriage.
And the solution to that issue was right in their home the entire time. I couldn’t believe it when I read it.
(You’ll need to read the book to find out what! 🙂 )
During the first 4 years of their sexless marriage, they truly struggled as a couple. God creates sex for husband and wife not only as a physical connection but an extremely emotional and spiritual connection as well (for both the woman AND the man). Without being able to feel that level of an emotional and spiritual connection for the first 4 years of their life as a married couple and still remain together speaks volumes about their faith!
They both struggled with pornography, insecurities, and fantasies that interfered with their marriage.
But God had a plan…
He used their pain to reveal deeper issues that needed to be addressed first before they could fully enjoy each other and become fully intimate with each other and with God. Jennifer learned that she had to “unveil” herself before God and before her husband, come clean and repent, before she could move forward in a godly marriage and be the Christian God created her to be.
Jennifer thanks God for those trials in their marriage!
She says if God wouldn’t have used their struggles the way He did, she wouldn’t be as close to God and she wouldn’t be as close to her husband, Aaron, as she is now. Jennifer and Aaron learned how to communicate with each other on a new level-since that was all they had for those first few years!
You HAVE to read this book! I couldn’t put it down. You can purchase it here on the UnveiledWife.com site.
It has changed my view on marriage SO much by helping me finally see marriage through God’s eyes. And it has helped me to realize how important forgiveness and communication are in a marriage.
And even more importantly, it has helped me realize how incredible God can make a marriage when you invite Him into the middle of it!
Where one alone may be overcome, two together can resist. A three-ply cord is not easily broken. -Ecclesiastes 4:12