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Lately I’ve been thinking and praying about ways to make this Valentine’s Day more spiritual than it has been for me in the past. I want to become more intimate with my husband this year than I ever have been – I want to make myself known. And I want to know my husband.
I never knew how to satisfy that intimacy hunger until I learned how to become a Wife After God from The Unveiled Wife. Ever since I have allowed God into life, I know that is possible now!
This holiday has always been about chocolate-covered strawberries, gifts, love notes, date nights (on rare occasions when babysitters are available! :)), kisses, and beautiful roses. While those things are THOROUGHLY enjoyed and appreciated, they obviously won’t fulfill me! Only God and His love can truly fulfill me!
The Greatest Love We Know
While praying about this, I was reminded of the greatest love we know. The love mentioned in 1 John 4:7-12 says:
Beloved, let us love one another, because love is of God; everyone who loves is begotten by God and knows God. Whoever is without love does not know God, for God is love. In this way the love of God was revealed to us; God sent his only Son into the world so that we might have life through him. In this is love: not that we have loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as expiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also must love one another. No one has ever seen God. Yet, if we love one another, God remains in us, and his love is brought to perfection in us. NAB
Love by God’s definition is a MUCH more meaningful definition than the meaning we give that word in today’s world. If we love the way God asks us to love, we will find fulfillment in everything because we will be seeking Him first. Only His love can meet our every need, answer our every cry, and bring us out of our every darkness. THIS is the kind of love that is to be celebrated! If we mimic this kind of love to our friends, our families, and even strangers, you WILL find fulfillment not just this Valentine’s Day but every day.
How Can We Love Like God?
How can we show love the way God asks us to? How can I become more intimate with my husband than past Valentine’s Days? There are SO many scriptures on love but I will mention a few of my favorites:
1. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says:
Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, [love] is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. NAB
Bear with me on this – I know this verse is used A LOT. But I talk about this verse in my post on The Best Definition of Love in a Christian Marriage. This kind of love means I will not try to recreate my husband in my own image and likeness. It means when he doesn’t meet my expectations, I will choose to love him regardless and love him the same way God loves him. It means I will not push and shove, but rather walk alongside him throughout life with the respect God asks me to show him. This is the kind of love I will show my husband this Valentine’s Day!
2. 1 Peter 4:8 says:
Above all, let your love for one another be intense, because love covers a multitude of sins. NAB
Jesus’ love for us covered an unimaginable multitude of sins! This kind of love means no matter what kind of thing my husband does that hurts me, I will still choose to love him fiercely and intensely throughout those difficult times because those things he does are of this world. This kind of love means to always forgive and forget. They are because he is human and falls to temptation, just like me and you. Every human is subject to the devil, especially those trying to become closer to God. He will do anything and everything to distract us from learning God’s beautiful Truth and prevent us from living according to it. The kind of love that God has set an example for us is a love that forgives a multitude of sins, over and over again. God knows the kind of world we live in and He will always be there to pick us up when we fall! Love your husband intensely this Valentine’s Day!
3. 1 John 4:18-19 says:
There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment, and so one who fears is not yet perfect in love. We love because he first loved us. NAB
Wow! This verse reminds me of a short passage on fear in the Wife After God devotional: Fear, worry, and doubt intimidates you from the miracle of intimacy while trying to convince you that God is not mighty enough to help….
She also mentions that when you allow fear to control you, it… hinders your spirituality. Operating in fear spoils what God intends for you to encounter.
Fear prevents true intimacy from ever happening, with God AND your husband. Do not be afraid to open up to God. Go to Him humbly and His will greatly bless you. And do not be afraid to open up to your husband! Satan will do whatever it takes and whisper in your ear any lie he can think of to prevent you from opening up to your husband. True intimacy between a husband and wife is something Satan wants to prevent more than anything! A Christ-centered marriage is the worst thing for his plans of darkness to succeed.
Do not let fear prevent you from loving your spouse like God loves us this Valentine’s Day!
4. 1 John 3:16-18 says:
The way we came to know love was that he laid down his life for us; so we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. If someone who has worldly means sees a brother in need and refuses him compassion, how can the love of God remain in him? Children, let us love not in word or speech but in deed and truth. NAB
Your actions speak louder than your words! No wonder the word “love” has become so overused. It is much easier to say things than to actually follow through with actions! This Valentine’s Day, I’m going to love my husband not in word or speech but instead through my actions and God’s Truth.
Valentine’s Day – God’s Way
This Valentine’s Day, through prayer and time with my Father, I’ve received my answer on what to do to bring more spirituality to such a commercialized holiday (He is SO good at answering prayer!). 1 John 3:18 spoke the most to me. I believe it was God’s direct answer about learning to love my husband more through my actions than my words, to always follow through and to love unconditionally. To love intensely and without fear. To always forgive and forget. To be patient and kind. To show true love to my husband.
True love, the love that God has for us, NEVER FAILS!
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